Stop Clearing Negative Emotions!

What if I told you that trying to get rid of your painful emotions by clearing them or washing them away might work temporarily, but then only leaves a gap for them to come right back after the session?

What if the real transformation comes when you start to accept and welcome every part of you, especially your shadow?

What if the only way out is through?

Today, we’ll take a look at our negative emotions, how they get stored as trauma and then end up controlling our lives, and how we can take our power back and transform them into light so that we can finally take a deep breath, feel relief, and experience more peace and freedom in every moment by allowing more Source light to shine through us.

INTEGRATION

I know a lot of you have been doing emotional healing work for some time. You understand that everything is energy and that how your energy field vibrates determines how you experience reality. Quite specifically, you know that your aura’s frequency fluctuates based on your emotional state, among other things. And throughout existence, on all levels where we experience ourselves as separate beings, separate from Source, there exists the full spectrum of energies, from extremely high-vibe and “positive” to extremely low-vibe and “negative”.

Obviously on the deeper level of the void, of the pure oneness of all things, pure Source consciousness, there is no duality of positive and negative. But as Source differentiates itself into you and me, into separate beings and things, duality does automatically arise. There is something, so also there is a lack of something. As soon as Source divides itself into separate things, there is duality and contrast. Yes and No. Light and dark. Positive and negative.

So duality is not going away. There is no amount of positive thinking that can erase that fact. We’re also not going to wake up one day and discover we have all ascended to a higher plane where negativity does not exist.

However, this does not mean you have to suffer.

Some of us may have come here thinking we need to suffer through life in order to learn. I would like to challenge that belief, at least in part. What if witnessing duality, just knowing it exists, were enough to learn and evolve as a soul? What if you could acknowledge that both light and dark exist, and not resist it, while deciding what you do and don’t like and moving in the direction of what you prefer – choosing to heal the pain and create a life you love?

What if the key to more happiness were not to run from the darkness, (also not to get stuck in it) but to integrate it? And what would that look like?

I can tell you what it’s not: It’s not trying to get rid of anything. It’s not waving a magic wand to make pain disappear. It’s not clearing or washing it away, and it’s not fixing something that’s inherently flawed.

YOU are already perfect. Yes, you may be divided into a rainbow of different frequencies and that’s beautiful. That rainbow of frequencies that you experience throughout life probably includes the whole spectrum, from peace, bliss and joy through to shame, grief and despair. So using the example of the rainbow… perhaps that diamond of beautiful soul light in your heart, that generates your auric field, is acting like a prism, reflecting pure Source light into all the colors and frequencies that make up you.

If we think of it that way, to return to the peace and freedom of Source WHILE in these bodies, in these lifetimes, we could reverse the prism – and step-by-step merge the different colors of the rainbow back into pure white light.

Practically speaking, that means we integrate our emotions, the high and the low, especially the hurt parts of ourselves, into our greater awareness. In the process of healing, we become whole.

Because the way I think of trauma or that dense, painful egoic structure we all carry, is that it’s created whenever you felt unsafe to feel a certain emotion during any situation in life – whether it was a serious traumatic event or just your brother always getting the bigger piece of cake or those kids who never wanted to play with you in school – that emotion, or that hurt part of yourself, got stored in the subconscious. And that pain seems to control our lives from back there in the subconscious, because each difficult situation it creates for us is a call to get our attention, to get us to finally stop pushing it away and welcome it back, receive its message, and heal it.

And so when we heal those stored emotions and those hurt parts, they re-integrate back into our conscious mind. Which means we have more power and energy at our disposal that we can consciously and freely use to create something beautiful in our lives.

EMOTIONAL ALCHEMY

How do we do this? When we are overwhelmed by emotions and confused and desperate and don’t know what to hold on to or where to turn, we always have our bodies. No matter what happens in this life, you’ve got your body. And whether you know it or not, your body is doing you a valuable service by storing inside it your subconscious emotional pain.

You may have noticed that every emotion you experience causes a physical sensation in the body. And so that is what we can use to heal. In a kind of somatic processing method, we can feel inside our bodies, feel the sensations that arise, and allow them to be there, without resistance or judgement.

We can welcome the wisdom of that pain, receive its message, and let it re-integrate or merge with our conscious mind. Whatever’s left we can fully embrace it with the help of our infinite Source light and actively transmute it into something else. No energy can be created or destroyed, but it can change its frequency. So we recycle or transmute it into something beautiful. Into a blessing for ourselves and everyone else who needs it.

We bless the world in a humble act of generosity, because all of that pain is consciousness under pressure, which means it has a lot of raw energy that can then be used for other things. We can think of pain and darkness as pure energy compacted down to take on a denser form, and when we allow and welcome it, it de-pressurizes into a fine mist of pure neutral energy, into the zero-point state, where we then alchemize it into a blessing with our intention and send it on its way, like throwing up confetti or little sparkles of light, or even fireworks.

So anytime you’re in a situation and an emotion is coming up, as soon as you can get to a quiet place, even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom for 5 minutes, allow yourself to feel the emotion fully, let it burn through you. You just track the sensation in your body, and feel it change on its own. Say: “Anger (or fear, etc.), you are welcome here. I welcome your wisdom.” And stay with it until it starts to fade on its own. You’ll be able to feel it in your body, and then you’ll feel it start to fade as it integrates. That’s it! You can then intend that whatever’s left turn into peace (or confidence, etc.), and say “Bless everyone in the world who’s afraid - with peace."

When you get the hang of it, it might only take you a few seconds to complete the process. Or you can take an hour, whatever you need.

If you don’t have time - let’s say you’re driving and you’ve got road rage and you really can’t process it in the moment. Just ask your heart to send the anger out into your outer field temporarily (so you can focus on the road) and then as soon as you get a chance, go through the emotional alchemy process.

I really recommend listening to the meditation I’ve recorded for you to take you step-by-step through the alchemizing process. Give it a listen and let me know what you think. There are of course other parts to healing, but this is the most important I think because once you get the hang of it you can go through the process really fast whenever you need it, and it will also help with upkeep for any new emotions that arise, so that you can process them on the spot and they won’t get stored in your body as new trauma.